More Sex Questions from Moms-to-Be
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More Sex Questions from Moms-to-Be
Q: Why do some women want less sex when pregnant? A: Fatigue, shyness about body changes, hormones, morning sickness, heartburn, bladder issues, backache, you name it. Any pregnancy complaints can make a woman feel less than sexy. Q: Why do some women want more sex when pregnant? A: Some women love the physical changes they're experiencing, for example larger breasts can be a turn on for a woman who's always desired them. Psychologically, many women feel an extra close to their partners. That feeling of an increased bond may result in more sexual behavior. Also, this is one of the rare times in life when conception (trying to or avoiding) are not an issue. That takes an enormous amount of pressure off a person. Add to that the heightened sensitivity to physical sensations some women experience and it's no wonder some women are feeling frisky. Q: Why do some men want less sex during pregnancy? A: Lack of information, for many. Often, men do not have as much information about pregnancy as they should. If a man fears hurting his partner or his baby, he is apt to hold back physically. Also, the mysteries of pregnancy may be more mysterious to men. They may not be sure how to act. Q: Why do some men want more sex during pregnancy? A: They may be overwhelmed by feelings of even deeper love for their partners now that they have made a child together. That may lead to more sexual interest. Some men feel intense pride in themselves for having created a child, creating the "macho" effect. Many men truly appreciate the beauty of the pregnant body and relish in that beauty through sexuality. Q: Are there any sexual activities which are not safe? A: This is definitely a question to address with your doctor. Most activities are considered perfectly safe. A general rule of thumb: if a sex act falls within the boundaries of "normal" sexual behavior and it is not uncomfortable either physically or psychologically, it's safe. Q: What about women who have been told not have sexual intercourse? A: Women who have been advised to refrain from intercourse should ask their doctors what sexual activities are safe. Cuddling, kissing, sexual touching can keep a couple feeling intimate while keeping a risky pregnancy as safe as possible. Q: How do I tell my partner I want less sex? A: As delicately as possible. Be sure to stress that you're turned off due to the side effects your pregnancy is causing, not because you've lost interest in your partner. This is a vulnerable time for men, too. Q: How do I tell my partner I want more sex? A: Make the first move. Talk about your increased desire. For some couples, the invitation for more sex is met with gusto. If your partner is not as sexually motivated, be honest about what you'd like, but don't pressure. Caring communication is the key. Q: How much sex is appropriate when pregnant? A: Whatever you and your partner are comfortable with. There's no right or wrong answer to this question, providing your pregnancy is a smooth one. Q: When should we stop having sex? A: That's between you and your partner. There is no prescribed 'time to stop' during normal pregnancies. If it's still enjoyable, then enjoy! Doubts? Talk to your doctor. Q: When is it not safe to have sex? A: It is not safe to have sex when:
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